Since the very day we started our school training in our tender days, we were tought to consider failure as something to be, by all means avoided. When I failed in my kindergarden years, my teacher would kindly send a report to my parents letting them know about my ugly failures.
How typical it is to witness a parent giving a tough time to her child because she had this “stupid” idea and went beyond the family status quo and did something crazy as dismantling a clock because she was curious about it.
Could you imagine what would have happened if Christopher Colombus had quit in pursuing his dreams? What if he had just aborted his goal and had stopped cherishing his most precious dreams?
As far as I remember I hadn´t seen one sinlge toddler leaving her process to learn walking after some stumbles and falls. Can you imagine a toddler thinking- “Oh, no, I have falled three times today. This thing of walking is not meant for me”.
So then why we tend to give up in our pursuit of reaching our goals and conquering our dreams? The answer is that we were trained to be terrified to fail and feel embarrased about it. Our own ego and expectations are part of these bunch of “bad guys” holding us to triumph and repeating time after time in our hearts and souls- “You see, I told you. You will never be strong, intelligent or brave enough to be successful”.
Getting beyond the difficult challenges will require persistence and diligence, and not listening to those “bad guys” hammering our deepest self love and pride.
Hey! You were born to be successful. Go for it! Consider failures as part of the process in your path to reach that awesome life you were sent to have.
You can count me as your friend to help you shift from that conditioning “you-must-not-fail” to the most healthy one “failure-is-part-of-your-success”.
Kisses and Blessings,
Jamie Velasco
Twitter: @EMPOWERurPOWER
bohzo Nikan (Hello friend)
Great blog. I am really glad I read your blog. I need to hear these words that you speak. You are very smart and impress me.
Have a great day.
Hi Jamie,
No actually I made a lot of mistakes and that’s why I’m so smart. 
Well written and said. Yes, nobody is perfect and we all benefit from our mistakes or failures. I remember I made a mistake once.
Thank you for the article and keep up the good work.
Your friend, Mike
If you believe it to be it will be
if you think you can’t you won’t
once you see that you are in charge of the thoughts you think
you can change your world
empower yourself
be the change
thanks for being you
and shining your brilliant energy into the stream of thought
Jamie,
I love this post. Thank you. One of my most retweeted tweets is:
“Resist the temptation of burdening your kids with YOUR fears and limitations”
Failure is, in my experience at least, a necessary part of success.
I embrace failure as a learning/personal/professional growth and learning opportunity and it is THIS that our kids should be learning. Release the thought/perception, re: the barrier, that others are going to judge or ridicule and take failures as what they are, learning opportunities…. clear ways to improve.
Thanks for this, Jamie, wonderful post.
Regards,
Darren
Jamie,
You have done it again. Beautiful way of looking at life. Thank You for sharing it.
SMILES to you!!
Judy Schneider
Very nicely said and well written. thank you! Good job. blog on!
Pam Perry
PR COACH
School and growing up are something of a paradox. It’s a time when we need to both develop into the people who we were born to be, yet it’s also a time when we need to be socialized so that we can “fit” into society. Both objectives pull in the opposite direction!
The problem is that there’s too much emphasis on socialization and little on personal development early in life. Socialization is teachable and society prizes it. Personal development is, well, personal! It isn’t so much taught as it is allowed, and when we’re young, most of what society does is not allowing us to do one thing or another in pursuit of socialization.
The paradox enters in adult life–usually early adult life–when we need to start unlearning much of what we were taught in youth. We need the parameters of socialization, but taken too far they crush the individual in us. So we have to empasize personal development, and it causes youthful rebellion.
It takes a lot of confidence to do it, more so to do it with an element of grace and humility so as not to disrupt the world around us. Small steps, leading to bigger ones is probably the best way, but forward motion is the key. As they say “Rome wasn’t built in a day”, and neither are we.
Life is a dynamic process, not a destination, and we have to purposefully participate in that process until we draw our last breath.
Great blog Jamie,
Wishing you great success and good health. I’m still on vacation, will see you soon. God bless.
“failure-is-part-of-your-success”. That’s true.
Unless we failed, we wouldn’t feel the joy of success and achievement.
The saying ” I found it ” doesn’t come until we fail many times.
But surely the one-thousand-mile road starts with a step.
I like your post. I find it motivating.
Thanks for sharing.
wery nice story
i think maybe recognizing you fail, is the true success in nature! shows we are brilliant and self-correcting! proves to me that evolution is in sync with something wise! maybe something in here could also explain on some level a relationship between DNA and mito’s and memory….
good work, i rarely read anyone else’s blog, but i don’t see your rss button so you can email it to me and i will subscribe for a bit
Life is made of lessons and lessons only… The judgment we attach to them is what defines us… May you always consciously choose to perceive the Greatness in all circumstances so that you raise your vibration towards your Truth…
Thanks for opening my eyes. I never realized how much the negativity of others and their doomsday sayings has impacted my decisions NOT to pursue something because it might not work out. What a lot of time I wasted….
You are so right about the fear of failure holding us back. I try not to surround myself with naysayers because it increases my fears even more. But the older I get, the less I care about what other people think. Thanks for a lovely post Jamie!
Renee Ludwigs
http://islandperspective.com/
“Finding tropical tranquility by living with An Island Perspective”
Love this post. Yes, failure is part of life which means it is also part of success. Once we accept this, we are free to make mistakes and see them as opportunities. Thanks for a wonderful message. Great job!
Hello wonderful lady!!
As usual, gem in my timeline.
Thank you Jamie
You have been a great inspiration to me.
Blessings
Wendy
Thank you for your blog. very enjoyable.
So true! I love the quote “Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” – Bernice Johnson Reagon
Thanks for the great post!
Wonderful post. Fully Agree with you.
Keep such work on…..
God Bless
Ajit Varwandkar
Another wonderful post Jamie; well said! Thank you for sharing. “The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.” Sven Goran
I love this Jamie. Well done. Thank you.
I especially like the analogy to toddlers learning how to walk. We do need to remember that obstacles are part of the process.
JC Dawkins
thankyou for sharing this with me and everyone ur post is amazing really opened my eyes and keep up the good work
keep them coming!!